This is the first time I have ever posted anything personal about myself.  I do this because it still hurts. WordPress and Facebook are places where people bare themselves.

Standing for “involuntarily celibate”, the term Incel was originally invented 20 years ago by a woman known only as Alana, who coined the term as a name for single men who have a difficult time developing a relationship with a woman. These man have concluded they are ugly and that is the reason they are celibate.

This all stems from the fact that many men are frightened of people in general or perhaps afraid of even trying to develop even a friendship with a woman.

A Canadian woman reportedly coined the term “involuntary celibates” when she launched a website more than 20 years ago to offer support to people struggling to find partners.

As someone who was very shy as a teenager I understand that problem all too well. I was determined to change that situation. For me it was more than relations with girls and young women. It was connecting with all people.  I did overcome the shyness issue in my 20s.  Still I was turned down by many woman when I asked for a date in those days. Oh yes they were somewhat friendly but I was rejected repeatedly. I never thought of myself as being “ugly.” I concluded that I was not “hip” enough and not smart enough for those women.

In the 21st century those “Incels” are striking out in a manner that never once occurred to me. To find the solution to incel woes, red pill-oriented forums offer various self-help pablum. What these suffering men need is a little backbone and positive support from self help gurus like Tony Robbins.

Sitting at home and whining about your situation is no solution.

It all turned out well for me. I have a wonderful wife of many years and two grown children.

Will I post anything ever again about me or my family.  I will try not to do it again.